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No Boots, Just Bars

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Truth in the Beat, Silence in the South
Unmasking, One Post at a Time

A person smiling and leaning over a balcony at night, with palm trees and a road visible below.
Hanging out the window during HANG OUT weekend

Let me start by saying this: I’m not here to shame people for what they enjoy. If you love country music, that’s cool. I’m not taking that away from you. But I am going to talk about why I don’t—and why hip hop and rap music have earned a permanent, sacred place in my heart.

Because for me, it’s not just about sound. It’s about story.
It’s about substance.
It’s about soul.

Rap and hip hop—at their best—are poetry in motion. They’re grit and survival and resistance wrapped in rhythm. They’re vulnerability and swagger and genius all rolled into one. There’s something electrifying about how an emcee can weave pain, power, humor, and truth into a single verse and still make you dance through it. The best hip hop artists don’t just perform—they testify. And I respect the hell out of that.

I didn’t grow up in a world that gave me hip hop. I had to find it. And when I did, it cracked something open in me. It gave voice to anger I didn’t know how to name. It let me feel things I was always taught to swallow. It made me curious. Made me bold. Made me think.

I know I come to this music as an outsider in some ways—as a white girl raised far from the culture and history that birthed it. But maybe that’s part of why I appreciate it so deeply. Because I know it was never made for me, and yet it still moves me, teaches me, and invites me in when I’m willing to listen.

When I watch a rap show—like I did this weekend with Wiz Khalifa, 2 Chainz, and Three 6 Mafia—I feel like I’m witnessing work. Real work. Artists who show up and give everything. Not just lyrics and beats but presence. Intention. Energy that fills the air and makes you feel alive. And that matters. That matters so much.

Now country music…
Sigh.

Country, to me, has always felt like the opposite. And yes—I’m generalizing. I know there are talented country artists out there with something real to say. But the overwhelming vibe of country music today? It’s sanitized. It’s cliché. It’s beer trucks, flag-waving, backroads, and girls in cutoff jeans. It’s often willfully ignorant of anything outside its comfort zone—and honestly, that’s what I find so off-putting.

Where hip hop confronts the world, country music too often retreats from it.
Where hip hop says “this is what I’ve lived through,” country says “let’s pretend none of that exists.”

And that doesn’t work for me.
Because I’ve seen too much.
I’ve felt too much.
I don’t want escapism that erases reality—I want music that wrestles with it.

Also, let’s be real: country music has long had a race problem. It’s a genre that has profited off the aesthetics of southern Black culture while erasing Black artists from its history. And don’t get me started on bro-country. (Actually, I already did get started in this post about Morgan Wallen, so feel free to catch up.)

And yet somehow, hip hop—a genre that’s constantly criticized, policed, and misunderstood—continues to evolve, continues to challenge, continues to show up for its people.

That’s why I love it. That’s why I respect it.
That’s why it moves me in ways no other genre does.

So yeah, you can keep your country radio. I’ll be over here, blasting Kendrick, Megan, Missy, J. Cole, Biggie, Nicki, and whoever else is telling the truth loud enough to wake the dead.

Back Down South: Sand, Segregation, and the Sounds That Stay With You

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Selfie of a woman in a bathroom mirror, wearing a wide-brimmed hat, a tan tank top, and striped shorts, accessorized with a small red bag and a white scarf around her neck.

Unmasking, One Post at a Time

This weekend, I found myself back down in the Deep South—Pensacola, Florida to Gulf Shores, Alabama. Back in my old stomping grounds. The air was thick with salt and humidity, the kind that settles in your lungs and reminds you where you are. It was Hangout Weekend—aka the Sand in My Boots Festival—thanks to Morgan Wallen, who basically made Gulf Shores his little yeehaw kingdom for the week.

Now, I’m not sure if I’ve said this before (I’m sure I have said this before), but I hate Morgan Wallen. Hate might even be too soft. It’s a full-body, sensory-based rejection. Like opening a trash can that someone left raw shrimp in. Like finding a crusty plate someone abandoned in the sink days ago. He’s that kind of bad. My nervous system physically reacts. It’s just not safe for me to be exposed.

Of course, my boyfriend loves him. Go figure. White boy who loves bro country. (Not to be bitchy. Okay, maybe a little bitchy. But also, honest.) I do respect his right to like what he likes… in theory. It’s just hard to respect things that aren’t exactly deserving of respect. I’m working on it.

Despite the unfortunate headliner (Morgan Wallen himself), I did not go to that show. My boyfriend and his friend went—he’s a fan, and that’s his thing. I dipped out, respectfully and with grace (and with permission—not that I needed it, but I still like to be considerate). I knew I wouldn’t have a good time, and honestly, I’m glad I trusted my gut on that one. It just wasn’t for me—and that’s okay. We like different things sometimes. That’s part of life and relationships.

BUT, we did get to see something really incredible: Wiz Khalifa, 2 Chainz, and Three 6 Mafia. And let me just say—they delivered. I mean delivered. They didn’t coast, they didn’t half-ass it, they gave full energy, presence, and artistry in their sets. Honestly? I was proud of them. Not because I expected anything less, but because they exceeded everything. They made me feel joy. And gratitude. And awe.

And also, something else.

During every single one of those shows—surrounded by lights and beats and sweat—I kept looking around. And I couldn’t help but notice:
There were no Black people around me.
Not in the crowd.
Not enjoying the show.
Not vibing alongside me.

Except—of course—for the staff. The people scanning wristbands, wearing “Event Crew” t-shirts, working security. There were Black people working the festival. But not celebrating. Not dancing. Not being part of the crowd.

The audience? White. Nearly entirely.
The performers? Black. Legendary.
The power dynamic? Glaring.

And it hit me—again, because this is not new—that this is segregation. Not by law, but by design. By cost. By culture. By centuries of gatekeeping and coded messaging about who belongs where. This isn’t just a southern thing. But it’s especially sharp down here.

If I were Black, I wouldn’t want to go to this festival either. It’s expensive. It’s overwhelmingly country-coded. It probably doesn’t feel safe or welcoming. That’s not paranoia. That’s lived experience.

But damn, it’s wild to see some of the most talented Black artists pour their hearts into performances, giving everything, while standing in a sea of almost exclusively white faces. It’s a gut punch. It’s an unspoken truth humming underneath every bass drop and light show:
We love the music, but we’re still failing the people who created it.

This weekend was fun, yeah. It was sweaty and chaotic and full of that Southern mix of fried food, beach salt, and bad decisions. But it was also real.
It was complicated.
And it reminded me—again—how far we still have to go.

A group of three friends sitting together outdoors, smiling at the camera. Two men are in casual summer attire, one with a shirtless look and colorful shorts, while the woman on the right is wearing sunglasses and a white top. The background features a turquoise wall and wooden deck furniture.